Closeness and Intimacy: The Magic Rod to Happiness
When your love language is physical touch, it's very hard to keep your hands to yourself. It turns out it's a good thing. In truth, every hug, every kiss activates more cellular hormonal reactions than the most powerful and meaningful words.
The following words are not mine. I copied them. This is how a surgeon explains the anatomy of feelings. There is something very interesting about the way he looks at the human body and experience. I especially love the last few sentences. What can I say? I'm a hopeless romantic.
"Anatomy of the proximity of feelings:
Increased heart rate
Glances that we feel even if we do not see
Waves that pass through our body and carry warmth, even when it's cold
Two great powers are constantly battling inside our body:
The empire of good, which is the three neurotransmitters that are released in our brain - dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin - the chemical formula of happiness.
Then there is the empire of evil, which battles against them. It spreads along the abdomen, hypothalamus, adrenal pituitary gland. It throws unexpected punches with its strongest weapon - the stress hormone - cortisol.
THOUGHTS ARE INVOLVED IN BLOOD CIRCULATION AND HORMONAL BALANCE.
Our thoughts activate our genes and program our cells. We are not what we eat; we are what we think.
TOUCH IS THE MAGIC ROD IN BIOLOGY.
Touch has the power to change our entire metabolism, to suppress pain and fear, to eliminate disappointment and dissatisfaction. In truth, every hug, every kiss activates more cellular hormonal reactions than the most powerful and meaningful words."
There is a book called The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Maybe you've heard of it? The first time I read it, I was confused about which love language was my primary. I now understand that a part of me didn't want to admit that it was physical touch because touching was taboo in my family and household. But I've always been someone who's been really good at working with my hands. I could have easily become a craftsman. Not only that, but I like touching things. When I go shopping, I touch all the fabrics that look like they would feel nice.
As for human touch, it's magical, especially if there is energetic attraction. In my eyes, touch is very intimate, sensual, and has healing powers. I like the tingle. I like to caress. Not only do I like massages, but I'm one of those people that would give a massage in return. I will accept a massage and give a massage only if I like you. That's right, I have limits, don't get any ideas.
Touch is the language of compassion. In recent years, studies documented great physical and emotional health benefits from touch. Researchers are suggesting that touch is truly fundamental to human communication, bonding, and health. I agree.
So, what is your love language? What makes you feel loved? Talk to me in the comments!